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Books for Fearful Children

2 May

Recently, some people in Boston went to run a race and the race ended in explosions and danger and people being hurt and killed.  I would dearly like it if I didn’t have to come up with a list of books, every year or so, to deal with the feelings that children must experience when bad things happen.  Even the most conscientious cannot totally isolate children from the twenty-four hour news cycle, the blaring headlines, and the anxiety that they may pick up from you, as a parent, wondering what new horrors the world can produce.  Obviously, as a parent, you will try to protect your child and focus on the positive response of police and emergency workers, of people going from the race to hospitals to give blood.  However, children’s emotions can’t be negated just because they are young.  To do so may teach your child that their emotions are not real or valid.  However you can read and discuss how bad things make you feel with the help of some of the following books:

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Sometimes I’m Afraid, by Maribeth Boelts.

Suggesting a different approach, this book  suggests religious solutions like prayer and faith to help children cope with fears.

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What to Do When You’re Scared and Worried: A Guide for Kids, by James J. Christ.

A book for slightly older children,  this book deals with small fears and world-sized anxieties.  The author discusses what causes fears, discusses physical strategies for coping, and when to turn to adults for help if your fears overwhelm you.

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Sometimes Bad Things Happen, by Ellen Jackson.

Helps children to understand that, when bad things happen, adults are there to care for them and they can be proactive by doing small deeds to help others feel better.

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Feel Good: Understand Your Emotions, by Kathy Feeney

A simple book about emotions and how you can deal with negative feelings through positive action and simple tasks.

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Don’t Worry Bear, by Greg Foley

Sometimes friends worry about each other, as bear does about caterpillar. True friends never leave us, even if they change along the way.

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What to Do When You Worry Too Much: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming Anxiety, by Dawn Huebner.

This is a workbook that helps children deal with prolonged anxiety by suggesting cognitive exercises  that don’t make worries go away, but do put them in perspective.

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Heroes of the Day: War on Terrorism, by Nancy Louis.

Based on the events of 9/11/01, this book shows the important role that fire, police and other emergency workers play in catastrophic events.

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The Feelings Book, by Todd Parr

In the simplest words and pictures, this book validates the emotions that every child has.

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Paulie Pastrami Achieves World Peace, by James Proimos

Pauli Pastrami is not a special boy, but through simple acts of ever day kindness, he manages to make a big change in the world.

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Michael Rosen’s Sad Book, by Michael Rosen.

When Michael Rosen’s son died, he wrote about his sadness and how sad things affected him.  He also wrote about how it is possible to recover from grief and sadness.

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Jenny is Scared: When Sad Things Happen in the World, by Carol Shuman.

Right on target, Jenny  and her brother Sam are confused and upset when a terrorist incident causes their personal world to grind to a halt.  This book simply explains how world events make children feel, and how they can turn to their own support network of adults and friends to help them cope.

You are your child’s strongest support and best role model.  They will take their cues from you in treating world events as a reason for them to make positive change in their lives.

– Lois Gross, Children’s Librarian

Wanted To Change The World
By Unknown Monk, 1100 A.D.

When I was a young man, I wanted to change the world.
I found it was difficult to change the world, so I tried to change my nation.

When I found I couldn’t change the nation, I began to focus on my town. I couldn’t change the town and as an older man, I tried to change my family.

Now, as an old man, I realize the only thing I can change is myself, and suddenly I realize that if long ago I had changed myself, I could have made an impact on my family. My family and I could have made an impact on our town. Their impact could have changed the nation and I could indeed have changed the world.

Reference:: Sikh Philosophy Network http://www.sikhphilosophy.net/spiritual-articles/8101-i-wanted-to-change-the-world.html

Theatre for the Mind

1 Apr

Long ago and far away, just after the dinosaurs roamed the earth, there was this thing called radio. I’m not talking about top-forty hits radio, or Sirius radio in your car. This was a console radio with buttons and dials that sat as a central focus of everyone’s living room, and from this wonderful instrument spilled out Big Band music, girl singers, soap opera and children’s shows like a storytelling program called Let’s Pretend. Anyone who attends my story times is familiar with the Let’s Pretend theme song because I use it to open and end each story time. There was also a wonderful performer named Kate Smith and it was on her show that I was introduced to Story Princess who enchanted me with her stories for children.

Thanks to a sister who was a born teacher, I read early so it wasn’t really necessary for my parents to read to me, but I frequently read out loud to my own daughter. Even when I had to work evenings (which, as a librarian, is a given), I made tapes of favorite stories that she could hear at bedtime.

I think there is a magical connection established when parents read aloud to children, or when anyone reads aloud to children. Not only are electronic devices turned off so that you can have human contact with the child, but you likely have the child’s undivided attention for the length of the reading. For children who have been raised with an assault of images, reading allowed exercises a different set of brain waves, ones in which the child exercises imagination to create their own mental images of what an author is describing. Too often, these days, we take the imagination out of stories giving young readers 3D, pop-off-the screen pictures that deny them the opportunity to think for themselves. If we want the next generation of artists, writers, and even inventors, this ability to conceptualize is critical to the process.

Also, keep in mind that reading out loud helps your child to develop vocabulary above their reading level. Children listen at a higher level than they read and to experience new words, phrases and concepts an adult voice is a great addition to the process. Also, don’t forget that, when you have finished reading, it is good to talk to your child about what they’ve read. Not only will this help you to see your child’s level of comprehension, but it will also give you insights into how your child views the world.

The Hoboken Library is in the process of acquiring a collection of titles for parents to help you select books for reading aloud. Books like Jim Trelease’s The Read Aloud Handbook (Penguin Books 2006), and Pa, Allyn’s What to Read When (Avery, 2009) will help you to select age and interest-appropriate books for your child. Also, many websites, such as  www.goodreads.com will help you to make selections.

Meanwhile, here are some books that you may remember from your own childhood that you will want to share with your child. (Note: These are all chapter books designed to be read with slightly older readers. There are many wonderful picture books for little ones, but chapter book read-alouds get less attention and I’d like to feature these).

Click on the links on each title to go right to the library’s catalog to reserve a copy online!

MatildaMatilda, by Roald Dahl.
Having just seen the Broadway musical of this darkly funny book about a gifted five year old, sadly mistreated by her foolish and cruelish parents, It is on my mind to recommend. Matilda is a wonderfully, humorous, satirical book that actually highlights the dangers of too much “telly” as Matilda, our heroine, glories in the good of books. The school’s head mistress, Miss Trunchbull, is the stuff of nightmares, but there is a lovely teacher, Miss Honey, and a kind librarian who encourage Matilda’s imagination and love of books, and it all works out well, in the end.

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Tale of Despereaux, by Kate diCamillo.
This was made into a wonderful animated movie, several years back, so after you’ve read the story of the plucky little mouse who, with a rat and a servant boy, conspire to save a princess, you might borrow the movie from the library and compare and contrast. Which version does your child like best? Is the story as they pictured it in their mind’s eye?

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Mrs. Piggle Wiggle, by Betty McDonald.
When I was in first grade, the greatest reward our teacher could offer was a session of reading out loud from Mrs. Piggle Wiggle. Yes, it’s been around that long, and it still holds up. The story of the rotund little lady with magic cures for children’s bad behavior begs to be read aloud. Don’t hesitate to act out the cures (especially The Whispering Cure for gossipy little girls). All of these stories are a bit moralistic, but the fun is so enormous that no one notices.

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Bunnicula, by James and Deborah Howe.
Chester, the cat and Harold, the dog are suspicious of the newly acquired bunny who has joined their family’s menagerie. Somehow, the vegetables in the refrigerator have developed a tendency to lose their color, and the cat and dog suspect that the pink-eyed bunny is a vampire rabbit. When they hear that you get rid of vampires by putting a steak through their heart, it’s a hop, skip and a jump to the meat section of the refrigerator.

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Secret of Platform 13, by Eva Ibbotson.
If you have children who are not quite ready for Harry Potter, start them on Eva Ibbotson. In fact, even if they’ve read Harry Potter, Eva Ibbotson’s books are wonderful fantasies which are more concise, but no less magical than J.K. Rowling. In this book, my favorite, a secret door opens under a train track every nine years, allowing access to a magical island. Nine years ago, a prince was kidnapped, and an ogre and a young wizard set out to save him, never knowing that he has become so spoiled they might just decide to give him back.

When you read aloud to your child, you share a bit of yourself, both from the selection of books and how you present them. The gift of reading is something you will always want to make a family event.

– Lois Rubin Gross, Senior Children’s Librarian