Archive | April, 2014

Beautiful from the Inside Out

30 Apr

People Magazine announced their choice for “Most Beautiful Person.”  Not surprisingly, the “award” went to Lupita Nyong’o, the willowy, exotic beauty who won the Best Supporting Actress Oscar, this year, for her part in 12 Years a Slave.  If you saw the movie, you know that her beauty is not just physical, although that is an unchallenged fact, but that she also conveys strength, intelligence, and power in her acting.  However, you might be surprised to know that, as a child, Ms. Nyong’o prayed, each night, for lighter skin because she felt that her beautiful dark skin made her unattractive by television and film standards in her native Kenya.

Today, also, Meryl Streep, she of the sculptured cheekbones and legendary talent, revealed that she thought herself too ugly to be an actress, when she was a child.  “Glasses weren’t in at that time,” she says, as if a pair of glasses could turn her dowdy. Gabourey Sidibe, the large-sized star of the heart-breaking movie, Precious, has her own response to “haters” that riff on her size and shape: “I didn’t really get to grow up hearing that I was beautiful a lot, or that I was worth anything nor did I grow up seeing myself on TV,” she said. “Then at some point when I was 21 or 22 I just decided that life wasn’t worth living if I wasn’t happy with myself so I just took all the steps that I could to figure out how to love myself and become confident.”

Perhaps the question to ask ourselves is how we can teach our girls and young women that exterior appearance is not all that constitutes beauty.  The media sends a horrible message to young girls when an actress must be airbrushed to be seen on the cover of any magazine.  Young, talented women like Mindy Kaling, Lena Dunham, and Kat Dennings have all taken individual stands about loving themselves as they are, but fire fights break out when they are featured on the covers of magazines like Elle, Vogue, and Glamour, swamped in trench coats or shown with only a head shot while thinner models are featured with barely more than their skin.

If you have a daughter, I’d like to direct you to two websites that are outstanding in their portrayal of role model women and girls, both current and historical, who show beauty through strength, courage and action.  The first is called A Mighty GirlThis site shows, not just biographical portraits of female heroes, but also has subject specific book lists and media lists that reinforce positive images of girls and women.  The other site is the project of comedian Amy Poehler and is called, Amy Poehler’s Smart Girls at the Party.  You can connect with this site through Facebook and get daily reminders of the accomplishments of women throughout history.  It is refreshing when women like Amy Poehler, known for their comedy, take seriously their responsibility to educate the next generation of girls as to how women have forged accomplishments and how much further there is to go.  Another site I subscribe to is Women Hold Up Half the Sky.  Be sure to watch the four-hour PBS special produced by this organization about empowering young women who have been tortured and enslaved throughout the world, to become educated and independent so that they can recognize their own potential.

While you are searching the internet for positive images of girls and women, don’t forget to visit your library shelves for books that prove that beauty is more than the skin we’re in.  Here are some children’s  and Young Adult suggestions of books to share with your strong girls and brave boys (because we want to forge a generation of boys who understand that women hold up half the world):

I Like Myself, by Karen Beaumont.


A curly-haired, African American moppet displays unharnessed joy at the beauty that comes from within her.  Whether she is goofy, giggly, or warty, she is true-to-herself and exuberantly happy about who she is.  Ages 3 to 7.

Princesses Are Not Just Pretty, by Kate Lum.


Three princesses argue over who is the most physically beautiful, and decide to have a beauty contest to determine the winner.  But along the way they get side-tracked with mud fights and helping others, and change their contest to who is the muddiest, messiest, and dirtiest.  A great anti-princess book.  Ages 4 to 8.

I’m Gonna Like Me: Letting Off a Little Self-Esteem, by Jamie Lee Curtis.


Jamie Lee Curtis knows a thing or two about beauty, having been labeled “The Body,” during her early career.  However, recently she has made a career of being one of the few “celebrity writers” who can actually write a credible kids’ book.  This book sends messages of affirmation to kids, letting them know that they can like themselves even when they get an answer wrong in school or dress with peculiar and unique taste in clothes.  The concluding thought is that, “I’m gonna like me ’cause I’m loved and I know it, and liking myself is the best way to show it.” A wonderful testament to self-love and self-acceptance with Laura Cornell’s adorable illustrations.  Ages 4 to 8.

The List, by Siobhan Vivian.


What school would permit a list to circulate of girls rated from prettiest to ugliest?  At Mount Washington High School, “The List” is a several year “tradition,” and the girls who appear at the bottom of the list are deeply affected by it.  This book takes on several important issues for teenage girls:  sisterhood, relationships, femininity, eating disorders and what it means to be singled out in a negative way.  An excellent book for young women to read and discuss as the characters are accessible and relatable.  Ages 13 to 18.

My Big Nose and Other Natural Disasters, by Sidney Salter.


Jory Michaels comes from a notably beautiful family and she feels that she doesn’t fit in. During one notable summer, her friends go out to discover their passions while Jory takes a job to earn money to get plastic surgery.  While Jory’s Adonis older brother and overly beauty-conscious mother are a bit stereotypical, Jory fights with some real beliefs that young women have that if they could just artificially fix an oversized nose or an undersized chin, everything in their lives would fall into place.  Ages 13 to 16.

Beauty Queens, by Libba Bray.


If Lord of the Flies met Survivor and the Miss America Pageant, the result would be this enormously funny and satirical book.  A planeload of beauty queens are on their way to the Miss Teen Dream Pageant when their plane crashes.  Miss Texas uses her wealth of survivor skills to lead the group while insisting on regular rehearsals for when they are saved. Miss New Hampshire is a stealth candidate, a journalist who is planning an expose of the whole beauty-vs.-feminist theme, but finds herself sucked into the pageant lifestyle.  Miss New Mexico has a serving tray embedded in her head from the plane crash, but insists she can compete if she wears bangs.  The ending of the book is explosive, in the truest sense of the word, but along the way Bray makes strong statements about pop culture, the media, and pageant girls while writing a great dystopian fantasy.  Ages 13 and up.

Uglies, by Scott Westerfeld.


Before there was The Hunger Games, there was Uglies, Pretties, and Specials, a series of books set in the future where young people are automatically given a total makeover for their sixteenth birthday.  Tally is anxiously awaiting the transformation which will include extensive plastic surgery and a new life among pretty people like themselves.  Seduced into exploring a renegade group that refuses to go through the transformation, Tally is forced to examine her life and her motivations for wanting to become something she is not.  She also discovers that there are sinister implications to the reconstructive surgery that is planned for her, something that will change not only her appearance but also her mind.  This series will take teens on a long exploration of a society of beautiful people with not-so-beautiful inner workings. Ages 12 to 18.

Teaching our children the value of self-acceptance and the virtues of intelligence, exploration, and education instead of carefully crafted appearances is a message that should be conveyed every day, and these books and sites are a great start teaching young people, and especially girls, their own self-worth.

-Written by Lois Rubin Gross, Senior Children’s Librarian

Favorites from My Author-Signed Books Collection

23 Apr

For my last post I wrote about my magazine collection. Today I’m writing about my collection of author-signed books. In some cases I met the authors that signed the books at events, or received them as gifts. These books (not signed editions, though) are all available to borrow at the Hoboken Public Library or through interlibrary loan. Some are even available as eBooks or audiobooks through eLibraryNJ, eBCCLS, and the 3M Cloud Library–see the links below the book’s cover image.

Sex and the City, by Candace Bushnell.


Sex and the City was the first author-signed book I received (a gift from a former boss) that established my collection. The book consists of the articles Candace Bushnell wrote for the New York Observer that inspired the hit show, but that is where the similarities end. Bushnell’s tone differs. Like many women, I spent Sunday nights watching Sex and the City on HBO. Most of all I loved the incredible outfits the actresses wore. I remember preferring the show over the book, but plan to reread it as my feelings for the show have changed over the years. (I still love the fashion, though.)

My Year in Meals, by Rachael Ray.


I received this book for free at a taping of The Rachael Ray Show. This four color cookbook is beautifully designed. The layout is like a journal, where Ray documented a full year of recipes. Throughout are assorted cooking notes and personal photos from Ray. Flip the book over for a section on cocktail recipes by John Cusimano, Ray’s husband. I haven’t tried any of the recipes yet, so I cannot comment on those. I can say that if you attend a taping of The Rachael Ray Show, wear a sweater. The studio temperature was like that of this past winter’s polar vortexes (vortices?). Brrr.

Sula, by Toni Morrison.


(link to eBook)

During my senior year of college, some friends and I trekked to (pre-Girls) Brooklyn to attend a reading of Song of Solomon by Toni Morrison. If I recall correctly, the reading was in a church and the book signing was at the nearby Community Bookstore. I chose to have Morrison sign Sula instead of her new work because I had recently read Sula for a literature course and enjoyed it most of all her books I had read. The publicists at the signing forbade us from speaking to Morrison to keep the line moving, but I still thanked her for signing by book because, manners.

Red Velvet Cupcake Murder, by Joanne Fluke.


(link to eBook)

This title is part of the “Murder She Baked” mystery series that follows Hannah Swenson, owner of bakery in a sleepy small Minnesota town with a rather alarming murder rate, as she solves crimes that usually involve baked goods. I’ve read all the books in the series, and while I feel that the love triangle between Hannah and her two suitors is tired I still enjoy the recipes included in the books. I made the Hot Stuff Brownie Cookies with chopped green chilies featured in this book, which several family members that taste-tested the cookies found too experimental, or “weird” to use their words.

The Tao of Martha, by Jen Lancaster.


(link to audiobook)

This one is my favorite because there is a good story attached to it. As Lancaster signed my copy of her hilarious and touching memoir about her efforts to live, garden, and keep house following Martha Stewart’s magazines and books, I asked Lancaster for restaurant recommendations in Chicago (she is based in the Chicagoland area) as I was going there for a conference. She was awesome enough to suggest three and wrote them down on a post-it note. I didn’t get to any of the restaurants on that trip (sorry!), but plan to try at least one when I go back to Chicago next year–I still have that post-it note.


We Are in a Book!, by Mo Willems.


This book is my favorite signed children’s book. The publicists at the signing (probably not the same ones from the Toni Morrison event) were moving everyone along, so when it was my turn I quickly told Willems how much I love reading his books aloud. I have read this book to my nieces and we giggled the whole time. (We also like There Is a Bird on Your Head!) This book, much like the other Elephant & Piggie books, is so silly and you can’t help but have fun reading them. The Elephant & Piggie books make great gifts for the children in your life–bonus if they’re signed by Mo Willems.

Do you have any signed copies of your favorite books?

-Written by Kerry Weinstein, Reference Librarian

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