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Helping Your Child Start School, Part I: Saying Good-bye at the Door

25 Jun

This year, the Hoboken Library will be doing some special story times, in August, for children having their first school experience in pre-school or kindergarten.  In this three-part list, I will share some books that will prepare your child for what to expect in their daycare or kindergarten classroom and help you and your child prepare for the pains of separation, especially if this is the first time and your child has been home with you since birth.  I would also like to suggest that you visit the following website to see what you can expect your child to learn during their first school experience.  Note that expectations are listed for each grade in school and might give you an idea as to early preparations for getting your child ready to learn: www.pbs.org/parents/education/going-to-school/grade-by-grade/

This is what is suggested that a child know before starting preschool: http://preschoolers.about.com/od/learningeducation/a/PreKprelesson.htm

This is what is suggested that children know before starting kindergarten: https://www.commonsensemedia.org/blog/6-skills-every-kid-should-know-before-kindergarten

The first list I will share with you has to do with separation anxiety, both for children and parents.  One of the hardest–and most exciting–days in your life is the day your child walks through a real school door.  It represents the beginning of the time when your child is no longer in your protective cocoon and must learn to get along in a world without your protection.  That first day is hard on everyone.  Here are some books to help you and your little one find the excitement, as well as the tears, in separation:

Mommy in My Pocket, by Carol Hunt Sendrak.

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A little girl gets anxious about leaving her mother when she starts her first day of school.

The Kiss Box, by Bonnie Verburg.

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Mama Bear and Little Bear prepare for a short separation by sharing a special gift.

When I Miss You, by Cornelia Spelman.

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A young guinea pig talks about the things that make him feel better when his parents have to leave him.

Llama Llama Misses Mama, Anna Dewdney.

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It is the first day of school and Llama Llama experiences separation anxiety when he has to leave Mama.

Jake Starts School, by Michael Wright.

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Jake clings to his parents and makes them stay with him during the entire first day of school.  Meanwhile, he can only watch the fun that his classmates are having.

Ready, Set, School! by Jacquelyn Mitchard.

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Rory tackles two kinds of separation anxiety in one week: he has to stay away from home, overnight; and he starts pre-school, as well.

The Kissing Hand, by Audrey Penn.

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When Chester Raccoon doesn’t want to go to school, his mother teaches him a way to carry her love with him wherever he goes.

Mama Don’t Go! by Rosemary Wells.

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Yoko learns that “mothers always come back,” from a classmate when she is worried about being left at kindergarten.

These books and others on the subject of children and separation anxiety in different circumstances are available at the Hoboken Library and through the BCCLS Library network.

-Written by Lois Gross, Senior Children’s Librarian

This post is the first in a three part series, which complement special story times to be held at the Hoboken Public Library in August for children starting school for the first time. Check back next week for the second part.

Part 2

Part 3

Raising Safe Children

29 May

It’s never a pleasant day when you open the newspaper and see that someone has taken advantage of children in your own community.  Sadly, it does happen and when it happens, it reminds us that our children are precious human beings who need to be protected with the knowledge that it’s okay to say “no” to adults.  It’s a hard subject for adults to broach with children, so just imagine how hard it would be for a child to talk to an adult – even a trusted adult – about their discomfort with good or bad touch.

The following books, available in the BCCLS system, are great ways to start a conversation with your children about how to protect themselves from inappropriate touching and stranger danger, in general:

My Body Belongs to Me: A Book About Body Safety, by Jill Starishevsky.

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A straightforward, gentle book that helps children learn about how to keep their bodies safe and when they should share information with a “safe” adult.

My Body Belongs to Me From My Head to My Toes, by Connie Stradling Morby.

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Teaches young children how to say “no” when they feel that their boundaries have been violated, and how to maintain a positive self-image.

Good Touch, Bad Touch: Learning About Proper and Improper Touches, by Teresa Connor.

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A book that helps parents talk to children about inappropriate touching.

Some Parts Are Not for Sharing, by Julie K. Federico.

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When is it all right for a child to be touched and when should they be taught to say “no” to adults touching them?  This book opens a dialogue for parents to discuss boundaries with their children.

Stay Safe: How You Can Keep Out of Harm’s Way, by Sara Nelson.

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Teaches children to be aware of their surroundings, the people around them, and how to stay out of danger.

Staying Safe by Saying No, by Cynthia MacGregor.

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“No” is a powerful word for a child in a dangerous situation. This book teaches children the importance of protecting themselves with the word “no.”

Some Secrets Hurt, by Linda Garner.

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Maggie is upset when she is touched in a way that makes her feel uncomfortable.  The person who touches her tells her to keep it a secret, but she wisely decides to tell her parents.

Say No and Go: Stranger Safety, by Jill Urban Donahue.

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Teaching children to leave when they feel in danger is a valuable strategy.  This book educates children on ways to stay safe in “stranger danger” situations.

Once Upon a Dragon: Stranger Safety for Kids (And Dragons), by Jean Pendziwol.

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Rhyming text and a fairy tale background teaches children the principles of taking care of themselves and resisting pressure from strangers who might do them harm.

In most cases, these are books to be shared with a parent or another trusted adult so that children can ask questions about how to protect themselves and adults can begin to explain why and how children can preserve their personal space, even with other adults.

-Written by Lois Gross, Senior Children’s Librarian