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Moving Away

25 Feb

In Hoboken, there seem to be two seasons: the school year and moving away. Parents with mobile jobs; families that transfer to the New York area from another city; and a latent desire for the suburban house of a family’s dreams may all contribute to “moving house,” as some people say. However, a big change like moving can be difficult for young children. Leaving behind friends, familiar streets, and accustomed routines are strong shocks to the system of little ones.

The Hoboken Library has many books to help children understand the emotions they are experiencing, and to anticipate what living in a new place will feel like. There are actually books for the whole range of ages, but to limit this list, I’ve focused on picture books.

If you’re on your way to someplace wonderful, we wish you well but we will miss you at the library.

Herman’s Letter, by Tom Percival.

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Herman, the bear, and Henry, the raccoon, are best friends. Henry, however, is moving far away. How can they keep their friendship when they won’t live near to each other? The two animals decide to become pen pals, but they find that staying in touch by letter is harder than they expected.

Peanut Butter & Cupcake, by Terry Border.

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Peanut Butter has moved to a new town and needs to make new friends. The other foods are too busy to play soccer with him. Then he meets Cupcake who is just the right person to share a pick-up game of ball.

Ian Is Moving, by Pauline Oud.

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After packing her favorite toys and saying good bye to his old house, Ian is ready to move. When he gets to his new house, he finds all kinds of surprises awaiting him.

I Want to Go Home!, by Tony Ross.

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Little Princess and the Royal family are moving to a new castle. It should be an exciting experience, but Little Princess finds that she is very lonely for her old bedroom.

Alexander, Who’s Not (Do You Hear Me? I Mean It!) Going to Move, by Judith Viorst.

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Alexander is having another horrible, no-good day when his parents tell him that they are moving. Alexander gets very angry and refuses to move, especially since it means leaving his special friends and the places he loves.

Dream Friends, by You Byun.

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Melanie has moved to a new place and has trouble finding friends. To deal with the disruption, Melanie retreats to a fantasy world. In her imagination, she goes on great adventures and finds many new friends.

Ella the Elegant Elephant, by Camelo D’Amico.

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Ella is starting a new school in a new town and needs confidence to be the new kid. She borrows her grandmother’s “good luck” hat, only to find that the other children in her school think that it is funny looking and make fun of her.

Bad Bye, Good Bye, by Deborah Underwood.

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A very simple and straightforward book in rhyme that follows a family as they move to a new town.

Bella and Stella Come Home, by Anika Denise.

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A little girl tries to reassure her favorite doll (and herself) that moving to a new place will be a good experience for them, both.

One of Us, by Peggy Moss.

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Roberta finds lots of potential friends at her new school, but no one is exactly right. Then she learns that people can become friends even if they are very different.

When Edgar Met Cecil, by Kevin Luthardt.

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Edgar the Robot is unhappy in his new town until he meets a very friendly alien creature named Cecil.

Tim’s Big Move, by Anke Wagner.

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Pico is a stuffed dog who lives with a small child. When the pair finds out that they are moving, Pico is concerned that he won’t like a new place to live. His child reassures him that everything will be fine in their new home as long as they have each other.

We’re Moving, by Heather Maisner.

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Amy and her family move to a new house and they must put some effort into making it feel like home.

Dear Panda, by Miriam Latimer.

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Little Florence misses her friends when she moves and tries to make new friends by writing to the panda in the zoo, next door. Making friends with the panda leads to her meeting another panda-loving child who turns out to be a real friend for her.

On Meadowview Street, by Henry Cole.

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What makes a house a home? For Caroline and her family, it is a new garden. They work to make their garden grow which attracts birds and animals and makes Meadowview Street a lot more like its name.

I Like Where I Am, by Jessica Harper.

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A six year old child is sad about moving but finds happiness in his new home in this delightful rhyming book.

Where’s Jamela?, by Niki Daly.

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Mama gets a new job and buys a new house for her family. Everyone is delighted about it except Jamela who likes her old house just fine.

The Red Boat, by Hannah Cumming.

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When Posy and her dog, George, move to a new home they are unhappy with the change. Then they find a magical red boat that takes them on great adventures and helps them accept the changes in their lives.

Sunday Chutney, by Aaron Blabey.

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Sunday’s family moves, not just from town to town, but all around the world, so she becomes an expert on developing the coping skills she needs to always be the new girl in class.

The New Arrival, by Vanya Nastanlieva.

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Sam, the adorable hedgehog, has moved to a new home in a new forest. However, he needs new friends. Where will he find them, in such an unfamiliar place?

All of these titles, and a wide variety of titles about moving for older children, are available At the Hoboken Library and in other BCCLS libraries. By the way, when you settle in your new home, don’t forget to get your family new library cards. It’s a great way to get to know about activities in your new home.

-Written by Lois Rubin Gross, Senior Children’s Librarian

We Are Family

14 Nov

As Thanksgiving approaches, the first of the winter holidays that are supposed to speak to family bonding and family love, it occurs to me that we are living in a very new age of what a family is.  In the middle of the twentieth century, family had a specific appearance: two parents of opposite gender and similar skin tones, a child or two reflecting the genetic combination of those two parents, and extended family with similar ethnicities and probably cultural backgrounds.  Now, in the early twenty-first century, the people who we consider “family” come in all varieties and flavors.  Our family may be related to us or not by biology.  Our children may be birth children or adopted children, no less dear for the way in which they joined our family. Parents may be different sex or same sex.  Sometimes there is one parent raising a child or the child may be freely moving among homes with stepparents and step siblings (see my previous blog about children of divorce).  Families are no longer homogenous and while this generation of children may be oblivious to differences, there is still a need to make each child feel comfortable with their similar or unique family situation.

As you give thanks for the people you choose as your family – or wonder how long dinner will keep you away from the Bowl games – this is a good time to consider books that tell kids that all families are just fine so long as they come complete with the large measure of love that every child needs to surround him or her.  As South African activist, Desmond Tutu once said, “You don’t choose your family. They are God’s gift to you, as you are to them.”  Here’s hoping your children live in a varicolored garden of family delights.

I Love Saturdays y Domingos, by Alma Flor Ada.

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A young girl delights in the differences and similarities she finds when visiting her Anglo grandparents on Saturday and her Hispanic grandparents on Sunday.

Marisol McDonald Doesn’t Match, by Monica Brown.

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Marisol McDonald has brown skin and red hair.  She also loves to play soccer, but wants to be a princess.  Marisol, who tells her story in Spanish and English, is a child whose mixture makes her very special.

Papa Jethro, by Deborah Bodin Cohen.

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When Rachel asks Grandpa Nick why she is Jewish and he is Christian, he tells her a story from the Bible about Jethro and his grandson, Gershom, who loved one another despite the differences in their religions.

Tell Me Again About the Night I Was Born, by Jamie Lee Curtis.

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Actress and writer Curtis has two children who became part of her family by adoption.  This book was written at the beginning of her journey as an adoptive parent, explaining about the excitement and significance of bringing home a baby.

Black, White, Just Right!, by Marguerite Davol.

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A child from a biracial background happily describes how her parents are different in some ways, but similar in others, and how all of their uniqueness has made her a special and unique person.

How My Parents Learned to Eat, by Ina Friedman.

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This is now an older book, set in a different wartime era.  However, its message remains clear. An American sailor meets a Japanese woman when he is stationed in her country.  The two have trouble communicating, but each has tried to learn to eat with the other’s utensils.  The story is told by their child, so obviously by sharing meals, the two found love.

Dragon’s Extraordinary Egg, by Debi Gliori.

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A dragon finds an abandoned egg and raises it as his own.  He is not prepared for the unlikely inhabitant of the egg, who has feathers and webbed feet and looks nothing like him.  However, along with a different appearance, the penguin has special abilities that are different from the dragon’s and save the day when they are needed.

Sweet Moon Baby, by Karen Henry Clark.

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The smiling moon watches over a baby in China whose parents love, but cannot raise her. In another part of the world is a childless couple who long for a baby and make the Chinese child their own.

The Hello, Goodbye Window, by Norton Juster.

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This gentle, funny book features a curly haired child of a mixed racial background who seems to burst with happiness when she is visiting her loving grandparents.

The Red Thread, by Grace Lin.

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Once there was a sad king and his queen.  They wanted a child, but could not have one.  Then they found a mysterious red thread that led them to the child that was meant to be part of their family.

Family, by Isabell Monk.

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Hope has a new and unusual dessert to bring to her mother’s family reunion.  While other family members bring more typically African American dishes, Hope brings pickles to share, and somehow it is just the right thing to add to the table.

Mommy, Mama, and Me, by Leslea Newman.

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Daddy, Papa, and Me, by Leslea Newman.

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Author Newman discusses the families of two same sex couples in which each parent loves, entertains, and guides a small child, a toddler, who is represented as fairly androgynous so that readers can apply their own pronouns to the stories.

My Two Grandmothers, by Effin Older.

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After Lily celebrates Chanuka with her Bubbie and Christmas with her Grandma, she decides that the two grandparents need a special party that she plans for them.

The Family Book, Todd Parr.

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In Parr’s signature style of bright primary colors and bold, child-like drawings, the author represents a variety of families.  Some families are big and some are small.  Some have two parents and some have one.  Some parents have the same gender and some have opposite genders.  Each family is unique in some ways and different in others.

We Belong Together: A Book About Adoption and Families, by Todd Parr.

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Distinctive art and color tell the powerful story of how a family is formed by adoption.  Parr extends the story even further by talking about bringing a pet into the mix, as well.

My Mother Is the Most Beautiful Woman in the World: A Russian Folktale, by Rebecca Hourwich Reyher.

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This is a gently told and meaningful story about a mother who is lost and then found by her child.  As the child searches for his mother, it is clear that he sees her through loving eyes and sees only her beauty.

Horton Hatches the Egg, by Dr. Seuss

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IMHO, one of the best of the good doctor’s books, emphasizing the dedication of parenthood, the need to keep promises, and how nurture sometimes trumps nature when caring for a child.  “I meant what I said and I said what I meant, An elephant is faithful – 100 percent.”

-Written by Lois Rubin Gross, Senior Children’s Librarian

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