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Adulting 101: Books to Get You Started on Behaving Like an Adult

9 Dec

Whether it was when you moved out of your parents’ house or when you graduated college and started looking for your first job, at some point we all have that thought that we’re a grown up now.  Adulting doesn’t have to be filled with existential dread.  Here are a few books that will help you with everything from financial planning to finding the one.

What Your Financial Advisor Isn’t Telling You: The 10 Essential Truths You Need to Know About Your Money, by Liz Davidson

Confused how to handle personal finances beyond balancing your check book? Then check out Liz Davidson’s What Your Financial Advisor Isn’t Telling You from HPL.  Financial advisor Davidson helps with how to find a trustworthy advisor and cut through some of the jargon surrounding the field.  She also looks at topics like paying off debts, the advantage of different types of employment benefits, and investing mutual funds.  You might also want to borrow from BCCLS Libraries, The Index Card: Why Personal Finance Doesn’t Have to be Complicated by Helaine Olen and Personal Finance for Dummies by Eric Tyson.

Avoiding the Con in Construction: How to Plan for Hassle-Free Home Building, Renovation, and Repair, by Kia Ricchi

First time condo or home owner?  Avoiding the Con in Construction is written by a Florida based contractor who gives tips on planning, cost, and communicating with contractors on home projects.  I wish I had read this before we had renovated our kitchen since it would have helped us better work with our contractor.  If you are handy and looking to take care of repairs yourself consider, The Complete Photo Guide to Home Repair: With 350 Projects and Over 2,000 Photos or The Useful Book : 201 Life Skills They Used to Teach in Home Ec and Shop by David and Sharon Bowers.

121 First Dates: How to Succeed at Online Dating, Fall in Love, and Live Happily Ever After (Really!), by Wendy Newman

Once you are out of high school and college, dating can seem a bit more intimidating.  Lots of people have gone online to find love (it’s how I met my husband).  Relationship coach Wendy Newman draws from her own experiences to give you tips on online dating advice on everything from profile pictures, from what to expect, advice for making your first meeting safe, and how to make your first date great.  You can also check out Love: The Psychology of Attraction by Leslie Becker-Phelps for a fun infographic and quiz-filled book that will help you find and improve your relationships.

How to Cook Everything The Basics: All You Need to Make Great Food, by Mark Bittman


Bittman’s gives you the basics of cooking including everything from how to peel vegetables to how to hold a knife.  After reading the book you’ll understand the difference between roasting and broiling.  Helpful pictures illustrate the techniques and recipes.  You’ll also be given a list of recommended ingredients to have on hand and the cooking equipment any kitchen should have.  This could be the year you host Christmas!  Also check out Simply Scratch: 120 Wholesome Homemade Recipes Made Easy by Laurie McNamara.  Now that you’ve got cooking learn how to behave with Table Manners: How to Behave in the Modern World and Why Bother by Jeremiah Tower which looks at everything from RSVPs to iPhones at the table.

Adulting: How to Become a Grown-Up in 468 Easy(ish) Steps, by Kelly Williams Brown  


Finally if you are looking for something all-encompassing for your exploration of adulthood, this funny but informative book attempts to cover all the basics of being a grown-up from home care, autocare, getting a job, saving money, and more.  The guide may even soon become a TV series!

-Written by Aimee Harris, Head of Reference

Manners, Please

25 Mar

Do you remember the first magic words you were taught?  Were they “please” and “thank you”?  Have you taught the same words to your children?  Do they know when to actually use them?

Mannerly children stand out in a crowd, perhaps not among their peers, but certainly to the adults who still rule their worlds.  Learning to wait your turn, not to interrupt, and to be kind to other people so that they will reciprocate are hard lessons to learn.  However, there are many characters in children’s books that are learning those lessons and can offer your child a usually humorous example of how to be on best behavior.

So, please read the following book descriptions and request them, politely, from the library.  Thank you very much!

Fancy Nancy, by Jane O’Connor.


Nancy has joined the rarefied group of literary superstars occupied by Thompson’s Eloise and Bemelman’s Madeline.  However, Nancy represents with her own personal style.  In the very first book that gave birth to a very successful series, Nancy tries to train her family in the art of being fancy, using large words, and dressing up to the occasion.  However, it all goes terribly wrong when an embarrassing incident in the restaurant where the family is dining causes Nancy to lose her dignity and, perhaps, learning an important lesson about her own expectations.

My Mouth Is a Volcano, by Julia Cook.


Louis has a volcano mouth.  His words wriggle and jiggle and tumble out, even when it isn’t his turn to speak.  So, Louis (and the children reading Louis’ story) learn an important lesson in managing their thoughts and sharing words without interrupting.

D.W.’s Guide to Perfect Manners, by Marc Brown.


D.W. has a goal, to be perfect for a day.  She demonstrates perfection by being clean, orderly, and showing good manners.  Children reading the book can take a test to see if their manners are as good as D.W.’s.

Mind Your Manners, B.B. Wolf, by Judy Sierra.


The Big Bad Wolf is now retired and living in the Villains Villas.  He has befriended a crocodile who is schooling him on behaving appropriately with other story book characters.  When B.B. is invited to a library tea, the other characters attending (many of whom were victimized by B.B. in his younger days) are shocked.  B.B. tries his best to behave, but a giant burp nearly blows the library down.  A friendly librarian (!!!!!) forgives him and suggests that he isn’t bad, just misunderstood.

Do Unto Otters: A Book About Manners, by Laurie Keller.


The Rabbit family has new neighbors but they are unlike their usual acquaintances: they’re otters.  How does a rabbit get along with a otter?  It’s a puzzle to the rabbits until they remember the Golden Rule and try to treat others as they themselves would like to be treated.

Suppose You Meet a Dinosaur: A First Book of Manners, by Judy Sierra.


If you happen to frequent places where you might meet a dinosaur, a grocery store as an example, this book provides guidelines on how to behave and not upset the giant lizard.

Please Say Please: A Penguin’s Guide to Manners, by Margery Cuyler.


Penguin teaches his animal friends how to behave when they are invited for dinner.  Rules involve good behavior like a giraffe not burping at the table and an elephant not spraying milk out of his trunk.

Hippo Says “Excuse Me”, by Michael Dahl.


It’s never too soon to start teaching children manners.  This little board book starts your child’s lessons by showing animals saying, “please,” “thank you,” and “excuse me.”

Thanks a Lot, Emily Post!, by Jennifer LaRue Huget.


Many years ago, a woman named Emily Post wrote a book about manners for every situation.  The children in the story are told by their mother that she expects them to use Emily Post as their guide to good manners.  However, the children turn the tables and insist that their mother follows the rules as well.

If you’d like to politely request these books, you can by going the BCCLS website and entering the title in the “search” field.  You can then patiently wait for the e-mail that tells you that the book is waiting for you at the library.  And please return the book on time so that another patron can learn good manners, too.  Thank you and you’re welcome.

-Written by Lois Rubin Gross, Senior Children’s Librarian

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